Christmas can be a stressful time for hosts and guests alike, and it’s more so for carers of people living with dementia.
It’s difficult to give general advice about how to get through the holiday season with as little fuss as possible because everyone is unique, and the various types and stages of dementia affect behaviour in different ways.
So I’m going to tell you a story of how one couple is getting through. Hopefully, their strategies will suggest things other families can do for a better Christmas.
Tom and Nola are not real people. Their portraits below are based on my experience working with people with dementia, and on conversations I’ve had with these people, their carers and service providers about how to cope at Christmas time.
Tom was diagnosed with dementia about three years ago.
“My memory is not so good now,” he says. But Nola, his wife and carer, says that he’s still sociable and enjoys food and company.